Rima’s life as a childless 30-something woman is a provocation for many people & a normal topic of conversation. Convinced that other childless women experience the same, this episode looks at why we should stop shaming women for not wanting children, the true confessions of many clients who admit to wishing they never had kids & why this shame can be very triggering for some women. She examines the roles of tradition, culture, religion, patriarchy & the idea of “nature” in why women are coaxed to have children & become wives from a young age. Rima hopes we can have honest conversations on what it means to raise children & why it might not be for everyone - and why that’s totally okay. There is no parent shaming in this episode, just a plea for women to be treated equally, regardless of their desires to reproduce. From the state of the world today to simply already being happy & content, there are many reasons why women choose not to have children.
They say that it’s best to refrain from blasting your politics & religion at parties to avoid offending people & to get along with everyone. But nowadays, when we have every acquaintance we’ve ever met at our fingertips, it’s easy to blur the line, overshare & not consider the real-world ramifications. Rima has examined this tendency in her life & the lives of her clients, & she opens the conversation up of where to draw boundaries & how to understand the impact of our on-line habits. Many people she’s talked to have been alienated from friends & family because of their beliefs, leading to detrimental outcomes of divided communities in a time where we direly need to come together. We examine: how what we share can divide families & friends apart; our communication styles; how to adapt advice from previous generations to our non-stop technological advances; how to decide who we want to be on-line & in our relationships.
Rima & Russell examine the dilemma of using plant medicines in the west while not engaging in cultural appropriation. You’ll hear: a definition of ayahuasca, what it’s used for, and where it comes from; what the term ‘shaman’ means & what it signifies now; what a ceremony might look like & what the role of the leader/facilitator is; what integration means & why it’s important for ayahuasca participants from the west; a discussion about how Westerners can engage with the medicine without engaging in cultural appropriation; ways to make the medicine accessible/non-exclusive while maintaining respect & integrity; the idea of money/profit & how it relates to ayahuasca; how ayahuasca offerings can be promoted authentically; ways we can use the message & teachings of Ayahuasca to engage in constructive conversations about her evolution & adaptation & more.
Rima, a licensed psychotherapist, discusses why movement is so important for mental health and how yoga helps to manage anxiety. Most adults don’t breathe properly and many people also aren’t moving enough. People who are depressed or anxious tend to spend too much indoors and hunched over a computer screen. All of these factors can cause our body to tighten and cause us to hold on the tension and stress that we don’t need. Movement helps to circulate and then release the stagnant, anxious energy that can reside in our body.
The secret to being happy in life and in love is to know exactly what you want, like, need, desire, whatever. But getting to know yourself can be one of the hardest things for some people. For others, spending time alone and being independent comes naturally. For those that don’t feel this way, being alone can feel like the scariest thing in the world. When we don’t know what we want, like or need, it’s impossible for us to advocate for these things in our relationships. We lose ourselves in the relationship. We put the relationship and the other ahead of our own needs. When we don’t take time to take care of ourselves, we burn out and we can become sick, mentally and physically. Long term, this spells disaster. We explore 7 steps to get to know your true self.
Rima & Russ took an epic journey 3 hours deep into the Peruvian Amazon jungle with no expectations & simple plans to sit in silence for 7 days, dieting with various plant medicines. Everything was grown on the grounds they stayed & they got to prepare the various plant teas and brews that they ingested throughout the week. Hear more about what Ayahuasca & other plant medicines are, what it’s like to sit in ceremonies for a week, various lessons they learned, why balancing the Divine Feminine & Masculine is of dire importance & what they took away from it all.
Breaking up is hard to do but knowing when it’s time to do so can be even harder. How do you know when that time comes? With Rima’s first long term relationship, breaking up was SO HARD to do - even though it was what she had wanted for longer than she cares to admit. But going through with it and sticking to her boundaries was very challenging! Over time, it’s gotten easier as she learned to recognize the signs and patterns and knows how to end things gracefully. Now, she’s found that many of my clients struggle with similar challenges, so Rima talks about 9 signs that it’s time to break up with bae!
Relationships are tough and dating an addict is even more challenging. Knowing whether or not to leave is confusing, and we explore considerations to take in this episode. If you choose to stay and work through the relationship with an addict, here are 5 ways to deal with and manage the relationship. We explore how to be supportive, how to maintain trust and boundaries, and how to take care of yourself first.
Good mental health, successful relationships & positive life experience all depend on adopting & maintaining self-care practices. The Nicoyan Peninsula is a Blue Zone - a place in the world that is home to one the longest-living cultures. Spending time in Costa Rica these last 5 years or so, I’ve learned a lot about daily priorities, gratitude, and how to live life to the fullest. Where I put my focus has changed dramatically and what I define as success has transformed in many ways. I measure success now based on my overall life experience, not simply on what I’m achieving career-wise. There is a huge difference that I’ve observed in self-care and perspectives between Americans and Tico, or people from Costa Rica. Listen to 6 lessons Americans can learn from Ticos about self-care.
Shame is one of the most debilitating emotions we can experience. Rima, a licensed psychotherapist, takes a look at what shame really is, what causes it, and how we can move past it. On this episode, we explore: how shame differs from guilt, why shame is destructive, what shame feels like in the body, what shame leads to if not dealt with, Rima’s past experiences with shame & guilt and how she’s moved past them with therapy, and five ways to deal with shame, forgive yourself and cultivate self-compassion.
What does “holding space” mean & how do you know if you’re doing it? How many positive exchanges with your lover must you have to cancel out the negative ones? Who do you vent to when your boss is your spouse? Listen in for an explanation of what it means to hold space for your loved ones, how to get ahead by doing “small things often”, and how to reframe your working partnership. We explore how to be successful if you work with your partner… and let’s face it - we all do it one way or another! Whether in your careers or by managing your home together, we all have to work with our lovers at some point. This episode merges science with relationships to understand what makes relationships work when you’re working together and what makes them fail… and when it’s time to let go.
Following a tragic rape & murder of a beautiful, young woman, Maria Trinidad Matus, in the small beach town where Rima lives, the epidemic of femicide and violence against women (VAW) is explored. Violence against women comprises a wide range of acts – from verbal harassment, which basically all women endure regularly, to other forms of emotional abuse, to daily physical or sexual abuse. On the other end of the spectrum is femicide: the murder of a woman. What are the mental health effects of violence against women & femicide on an individual & on a community level? What is the impact in general on the community? What are the theories that explore causes of femicide and ways to prevent or decrease femicide? Why does the media misreport rape and crimes against women & what role does patriarchy have to play in all of this? Rima discusses worldwide statistics of femicide, her own theories of the systemic, societal collapse that’s imminent & why we are seeing such horrific displays of violence & hatred, and how we can come together as humans to address & eradicate women as perpetual victims of abuse, rape & murder. In memory of Maria Trinidad Matus #niunamenos
Rima catches listeners up on her entrepreneurial pursuits, which include low “ebbs” along the way. With all transparency, Rima talks about a lack of motivation, feeling stuck in work & life, & how “ebbs” can be depressing. She shares how she deals with these moments & how it’s actually a good thing to have ups and downs in life. She talks about the importance of creating space for different opportunities to come in & being open for what comes. Sometimes we need a break from our routine or our story to clear all the voices out before we can figure out what we really want for ourselves. As entrepreneurs, it can be challenging to stick to one path, to get focused, & to not do all of the things that come our way, & this episode talks all about dealing with those things & the attachments we collect along the way.
Tara uses the written word & surfing as a metaphor to Identify and discuss a broader experience of women all over felt both in the water and on land… processes that include patriarchy and misogyny, and she uses her experience as a writer and surfer to give voice to women in her own work & in her collaborations with women all over the world (in the book she’s working on, Women's Surf Stories). She’s a well-published author and PhD student who’s specializing in Sustainable Surf Tourism & she travels the world & hosts various events & retreats. In this episode, she talks about putting boundaries in place with her art, the abuse and reactivity she experienced when speaking her voice, being silenced as a woman who’s voice doesn't go along with the mainstream, dating across cultures, coming to Costa Rica in the student abroad program & feeling “home”, being non-attached as an artist & writer, whether to positive or negative feedback, being a program assistant for a study abroad program called Surfing and Sustainability, and more!
Cristina Kalyani Paes found her path from a very young age & found herself asking primordial questions that weren’t typical of the time. She had paranormal experiences & was given resources to study about yoga & to work with a paranormal psychologist. From there, she deepened her studies for many years by learning about breathwork, hypnotherapy (from Brian Weiss & Dolores Cannon), yoga philosophy and lifestyle at the Bihar School of Yoga & meditation. A pilgrim, she traveled by horseback for a year and a half around South America, introducing fire dancing and yoga choreography to the unprivileged people in the mountains of Peru with Nomads United, before she settled in Costa Rica 16 years ago. Now, she practices the Yoga of Life, without putting labels or trying to market herself in an inauthentic way. Her work is a culmination of her experiences & knowledge. She wants to see yoga remain what it really is & shares the message that we don’t all need to quit everything, become yoga teachers and monks, and live in the jungle in order to be spiritual. “The world needs all professions, not just yoga teachers. We can always transform the work that we do into something beautiful. Anything we can do to go back to nature is they key - not that we have to release or get rid of our lives.” She talks about the need for community gathering centers in big cities where people can connect and experience a tribe, a place where one can LIVE yoga or spirituality. She’s frustrated with centers and studios that give employment to yoga teachers based on their social media followings and not based on their merit and it causes her to question the integrity of these places. She believes we need to find a balance with yoga as a profession and yoga as a philosophy, and always remain in our authenticity.
Maya DeGabrielle lives her life as a true example for all. Never a bad word to say about anybody, she is constantly smiling and brightening the lives of those around her. She left her parents’ house at 16 & went off into the wild, living in numerous paradise-destinations, including Indonesia, Ibiza, South Africa & more, before deciding to settle in Santa Teresa, Costa Rica, where she has a Standup Paddleboard company - Sundah Surfers. She gets to be a mermaid all day long as she wows her guests with the simplicity of nature, being present & always having a positive mindset. Even when her beautiful car was stolen, I never heard Maya complain once or say anything negative - hear why she lives her life this way and what it’s done for her. She’s trusting the flow & the calling of her life to fulfill her deepest-rooted desires.
Mona grew up in Argentina where she was pressured to go to university immediately after high school. At 17, she wanted to be a fashion designer but decided, on her first day of university, to switch to studying architecture. Not a small feat, she spent 6 years studying & working to survive. She took a solo trip to Costa Rica and her perspective completely changed. She went home to take her final exams & after graduating, she came back to Santa Teresa & decided to follow her heart. She spent her days surfing & soon became a surf instructor and a little monkey or a “Mona”. She began designing her own personal surf swimwear & her students wanted to buy them. She went from sewing 10 suits at a time to a full-time team of partners and staff in Costa Rica & California growing the brand. She named the brand Mona, and the designs are now made from recycled abandoned fishing nets from the bottom of the ocean, is fully recyclable, & is so smooth & comfortable! So it turns out she became a fashion designer in the end! A true full circle story… Her story is so inspiring to the female entrepreneur chasing her dreams.
Nancy road tripped down the coast of Mexico through Central America over 20 years ago before settling in Costa Rica, where her family had already moved to live a different life. Together, they built, sold & built another successful hotel which they now run together in paradise. Nancy was a devout Ashtangi for many years before becoming a certified yoga teacher by popular demand - she was already teaching classes in town because everyone loved her style and there was a huge demand for yoga! After losing her toddler in a car accident 17 years ago, Nancy has learned countless lessons on grief, transformation, the importance of family, community & a support system, and understanding that “what we have is here and now. The more we can open up and be less attached to what is in the future, there’s a deeper sense of happiness.”
Laurie figured out at a young age that society is trying to place us into a box and that she didn’t want to be in that box. French Canadian, she came to Costa Rica for the first time with her mother and found her love for surfing, speaking Spanish & being connected to nature. Her heart remained when she went home & after returning to travel around Costa Rica & central America for months, she decided to return to Costa Rica. She’s been here 11 years & describes herself as a mermaid that loves to dance, surf, dive & play. She hosts Ecstatic Dance biweekly in our beach community, creating a safe space for us to dance our hearts away with judgement, drugs or alcohol. She creates magic in many other ways. We talk sunsets, astrology, following your passions & dreams, not settling into what others want for you & more. Listen in for jungle girl boss inspiration!
Originally from Italy, Giulia moved around the US before settling in New York City. She worked for Diesel and was in the fashion industry for many years. She reached a point in her life where she wanted a sense of freedom & fulfillment. She visited Costa Rica with her partner & she fell in love. Soon after, she experienced a devastating earthquake in Nepal & was traumatized. Instead of going back to her life of structure and routine, she was getting ready to get married & move to the jungle. She was worried about healing from her trauma but soon found that nature was her ultimate healer. Here, she’s able to explore her creativity, to let her entrepreneurial side run wild and take risks, and partner with people she loves. She’s one of Rima’s business partners and they share a few anecdotes and stories on making it as a female entrepreneur in the jungle!