Rima & Russell examine the dilemma of using plant medicines in the west while not engaging in cultural appropriation. You’ll hear: a definition of ayahuasca, what it’s used for, and where it comes from; what the term ‘shaman’ means & what it signifies now; what a ceremony might look like & what the role of the leader/facilitator is; what integration means & why it’s important for ayahuasca participants from the west; a discussion about how Westerners can engage with the medicine without engaging in cultural appropriation; ways to make the medicine accessible/non-exclusive while maintaining respect & integrity; the idea of money/profit & how it relates to ayahuasca; how ayahuasca offerings can be promoted authentically; ways we can use the message & teachings of Ayahuasca to engage in constructive conversations about her evolution & adaptation & more.
Rima, a licensed psychotherapist, discusses why movement is so important for mental health and how yoga helps to manage anxiety. Most adults don’t breathe properly and many people also aren’t moving enough. People who are depressed or anxious tend to spend too much indoors and hunched over a computer screen. All of these factors can cause our body to tighten and cause us to hold on the tension and stress that we don’t need. Movement helps to circulate and then release the stagnant, anxious energy that can reside in our body.
The secret to being happy in life and in love is to know exactly what you want, like, need, desire, whatever. But getting to know yourself can be one of the hardest things for some people. For others, spending time alone and being independent comes naturally. For those that don’t feel this way, being alone can feel like the scariest thing in the world. When we don’t know what we want, like or need, it’s impossible for us to advocate for these things in our relationships. We lose ourselves in the relationship. We put the relationship and the other ahead of our own needs. When we don’t take time to take care of ourselves, we burn out and we can become sick, mentally and physically. Long term, this spells disaster. We explore 7 steps to get to know your true self.
Rima & Russ took an epic journey 3 hours deep into the Peruvian Amazon jungle with no expectations & simple plans to sit in silence for 7 days, dieting with various plant medicines. Everything was grown on the grounds they stayed & they got to prepare the various plant teas and brews that they ingested throughout the week. Hear more about what Ayahuasca & other plant medicines are, what it’s like to sit in ceremonies for a week, various lessons they learned, why balancing the Divine Feminine & Masculine is of dire importance & what they took away from it all.
Breaking up is hard to do but knowing when it’s time to do so can be even harder. How do you know when that time comes? With Rima’s first long term relationship, breaking up was SO HARD to do - even though it was what she had wanted for longer than she cares to admit. But going through with it and sticking to her boundaries was very challenging! Over time, it’s gotten easier as she learned to recognize the signs and patterns and knows how to end things gracefully. Now, she’s found that many of my clients struggle with similar challenges, so Rima talks about 9 signs that it’s time to break up with bae!
Relationships are tough and dating an addict is even more challenging. Knowing whether or not to leave is confusing, and we explore considerations to take in this episode. If you choose to stay and work through the relationship with an addict, here are 5 ways to deal with and manage the relationship. We explore how to be supportive, how to maintain trust and boundaries, and how to take care of yourself first.
Good mental health, successful relationships & positive life experience all depend on adopting & maintaining self-care practices. The Nicoyan Peninsula is a Blue Zone - a place in the world that is home to one the longest-living cultures. Spending time in Costa Rica these last 5 years or so, I’ve learned a lot about daily priorities, gratitude, and how to live life to the fullest. Where I put my focus has changed dramatically and what I define as success has transformed in many ways. I measure success now based on my overall life experience, not simply on what I’m achieving career-wise. There is a huge difference that I’ve observed in self-care and perspectives between Americans and Tico, or people from Costa Rica. Listen to 6 lessons Americans can learn from Ticos about self-care.
Shame is one of the most debilitating emotions we can experience. Rima, a licensed psychotherapist, takes a look at what shame really is, what causes it, and how we can move past it. On this episode, we explore: how shame differs from guilt, why shame is destructive, what shame feels like in the body, what shame leads to if not dealt with, Rima’s past experiences with shame & guilt and how she’s moved past them with therapy, and five ways to deal with shame, forgive yourself and cultivate self-compassion.
What does “holding space” mean & how do you know if you’re doing it? How many positive exchanges with your lover must you have to cancel out the negative ones? Who do you vent to when your boss is your spouse? Listen in for an explanation of what it means to hold space for your loved ones, how to get ahead by doing “small things often”, and how to reframe your working partnership. We explore how to be successful if you work with your partner… and let’s face it - we all do it one way or another! Whether in your careers or by managing your home together, we all have to work with our lovers at some point. This episode merges science with relationships to understand what makes relationships work when you’re working together and what makes them fail… and when it’s time to let go.
Following a tragic rape & murder of a beautiful, young woman, Maria Trinidad Matus, in the small beach town where Rima lives, the epidemic of femicide and violence against women (VAW) is explored. Violence against women comprises a wide range of acts – from verbal harassment, which basically all women endure regularly, to other forms of emotional abuse, to daily physical or sexual abuse. On the other end of the spectrum is femicide: the murder of a woman. What are the mental health effects of violence against women & femicide on an individual & on a community level? What is the impact in general on the community? What are the theories that explore causes of femicide and ways to prevent or decrease femicide? Why does the media misreport rape and crimes against women & what role does patriarchy have to play in all of this? Rima discusses worldwide statistics of femicide, her own theories of the systemic, societal collapse that’s imminent & why we are seeing such horrific displays of violence & hatred, and how we can come together as humans to address & eradicate women as perpetual victims of abuse, rape & murder. In memory of Maria Trinidad Matus #niunamenos